Sunday, June 18, 2017

Never forget..

Sometimes in life we forget about the things that matter most to us. We become so consumed with all the responsibilities of daily life. We tend to put aside our dreams, needs & wants. Then again making sacrifices to maintain a stable environment can be more important to some than others.

I have been so busy working a 9-5 job, taking on many other responsibilities at home, with family and my part time writing jobs.  I have completely lost my path towards the goals I’ve set for myself.  I must somehow remember to always keep those in mind.

There have been times where I just want to give up on my writing. Only for the simple fact I am unable to find the time to do so. Then something hit me really hard last night & in my dreams I was reminding myself why I love to write. So here I am again.
Writing for me is more than just a hobby. It’s more than just blogging. It’s my way of releasing deep thoughts, pain, joy & dreams.  Sometimes I forget why and how this all started.  Yesterday I was quickly reminded of who I am and what I love to do. I am and always will be a WRITER.

Thank you to the co-worker of my sister who purchased one of my books and stated “My writing was amazing.” My sister relaying that message to me made my day. There are plenty of times that I become discouraged; especially when I have to deal with the negativity from bitter people on certain articles I write on as well. Well, criticism comes along with being a writer just as it does with any profession. I take the good along with the bad.  I keep on writing. I know that when I hear one person praise my work then I know that my passion for doing so continues. I don't need millions of people to follow me, or enjoy my writing. I write for myself because it's my passion. It helps me to connect & disconnect from the world. I love it.

Today being Sunday, Father's Day & my eldest sons birthday. I had many errands to run. I was somewhat emotional due to some issues I am enduring. I began to type in my journal. I stopped and chose to blog it out. As a writer I add my links under certain words. As I was doing so. I was surprisingly shocked to see that my second book is being sold at BARNES & NOBLE. I was overwhelmed with feeling proud. I immediately called my sister & just yelled GOD IS GOOD. It was certainly a sign given.

This may not seem like your typical blog of food, shopping, gossip, music etc. This is just me plain & simple. An ordinary everyday woman venting. It's what made me a writer. It has taken a long time for me to get where I am today. I will never, ever doubt myself again. I will always make time for my writing regardless of who or what time it may compromise. There is no other joy than to keep experiencing the feeling that I felt today seeing my books, my name on the #1 BookStore in America.  For this accomplishment I am eternally grateful and will NEVER FORGET to keep on writing.

Thanks for reading..  )0(

Sunday, May 7, 2017


I'm sure most of you, more like 95 %  of the universe all have this issue. It is the most common thing to have in every family. To those who say they don't are not as close as they believe to be.

Every family has problems. There will always be sibling rivalry; especially when there are a dozen of you in one home.  I would like to say that it's a Latino way of being family oriented when there are so many people living under one roof.  However it's not just our race. It's every race, every culture in every part of the world.  When you have so many relatives living together; yes you become close. How can you not?  You grow up with your brothers & sisters. The grammar schools, high schools, holidays, birthdays, barbecues gatherings mainly consisted of your cousins.  It was always a special gathering when you're kids. It was fun and those are the memories you have for a lifetime.

If you stop for a moment as you read this blog. What childhood memory are you remembering at this moment? Your brother? Sister? Mother, Father? Whomever it is it is a memory you have of FAMILY.  I'm sure not all memories are great but without those memories many of you would have an empty heart.

When you're close to your siblings they are your best friends. Seriously, think about every time you have had your heart broken. Who was the person that would hold you and say something silly or uplifting to get you through it? A family member.  When you've smoked your first cigarette or vomit from drinking too much; who was there by your side? A family member.  Of course either scolding you out or laughing at your ignorance nonetheless it was a family member.

Later in life when you're all grown up and have your own family. You always include your siblings because you want them to be part of your happiness. Well at least that is how I see it.  Don't get me wrong. Sometimes family may not be as tolerable as other times; that is a harsh truth. When all the bickering and frustration has been lifted the love for each other always remains.  It may take some time when hurtful comments, accusations, stupidity have occurred but in the end you always forgive because FAMILY love conquers all. Well, it should for many. 

To those siblings & parents who prefer to live a life without knowing anything of each other; will lose the meaning of forgiveness. Whatever issues any family members have towards one another; should be rectified before you never get the chance to do so again.

FAMILY: is what you started out with in this world. FAMILY is what you grow up with in life. FAMILY is snarking & bickering at each other yet ALWAYS being there for each other no matter what.  FAMILY is being the best parent you can be to your child/ren showing them what family love is all about.  FAMILY is loving each other through good times, bad times, poor times, rich times and making the best of each and every moment. 

So the next time you choose to NOT to be with family for whatever reason. The only person missing out on creating new family memories is you. Family is what brought us into this world. Family is who will be with us when we leave this world. Throughout your entire life the only thing that will always be significant is FAMILY. 

Keep this in mind the next time you think of yours............... )0(

Saturday, April 15, 2017

Second Chances

There is so much going on in the world today. It makes you think of so many things in your own life. You begin to analyze every moment of significance. All the news broadcasts reporting on the attacks over the world. The immigration deportation worries for numerous immigrants. You can’t help but wonder how it will affect families. Then you have the drug wars, the gang shootings & the never ending saga of discrimination & racism.

What this world needs is change. A type of change that only we as human beings can accomplish. The positive people who agree with what I am saying will be sharing this blog. Then of course you will have the negative people who will always bring down any efforts of good deeds done. Those people will bash this blog or me.

Well here is something to think about. Do you believe in “Second Chance”? If a person who once lived a particular lifestyle has changed. Would you give this person a second chance in life? It can range from any scenario; employment, a relationship, a marriage, or the parent of your child or children?  Everyone in life makes mistakes. Who are we to judge?

Don't get me wrong. I don't think that everyone is to be given a free pass on the crimes they have committed. I do believe in paying your dues and hopefully reforming your life from the error of your ways. So what happens to those people who do so? Who gives them a second chance in life? Well, in the state of Illinois only 12% of convicted criminals are given an employment opportunity. Unfortunately if you haven't come out of a rejuvenated program or know someone who knows someone you won't be given a chance. I do speak from the experience of others when I say it is extremely unfair that the employment world still judges you for your past.

I have witnessed many people be denied employment because of a background check from decades ago. Some of these individuals served their time and continue to pay the price today. They have extreme difficulties finding employment. I just don't understand.

There are so many people who are worth giving an opportunity to provide for their families. Yet the hiring companies all discriminate when you have a background. I understand that a business owner is going to protect his business however isn't this judging & discriminating for doing so? Some businesses would prefer to give a position to someone who can barely speak English. In a few weeks time you will see them searching for a new person because that person didn't work out. Go figure.

Everyone talks about how they do not judge, nor discriminate. There are people who are judging me as I write this blog. Everybody is quick to pick out the flaws in others but when and I do mean WHEN will everyone stop the bullshit and stop judging everyone for their pasts. Whatever the case may be; everyone DESERVES a second chance at regaining their life back. Everyone makes mistakes. You learn to live with them and strive to move forward. Why can't the discriminators

We are the people of this world, Change is desperately needed and it needs to start with us. Perhaps one day all those who have done wrong can earn that second chance. Until then all we can do is pray and hope the best for them. Don't discriminate; Stop the hate.

Here's praying for a better tomorrow.... )0(

Sunday, March 26, 2017

No time for that...

As an author & writer I had a facebook business page to connect to my website & other magazines I write for Chicago Now & Hub Pages. Due to some seriously frightening messages & followers I was receiving. I made the decision to close my business page and re-open my personal profile. I have more control on who & what I will allow.

Over the past few days I was contemplating on making a serious decision about certain things & people. Today I have made that choice to leave all those who give me nothing but sorrow, negativity, drama & heartache. I choose to remain happy inside.

Have you ever noticed when you're a good person and do everything you can to distance yourself from all that bothers you; somehow the negativity seems to draw you back in? Well, I won't have it. I enjoy my sanity.

It seems to me that social media has a huge impact on relationships, friendships & family.  It can be the only way people prefer to communicate. Sometimes those posts or comments can cause more problems than joy. People won't respond to your phone calls or texts yet they find the time to communicate with the entire world on social media. Go figure.

Whatever the case may be I simply choose not to fall prey. To those who wish to keep in contact with me my number is at your request. To those who wish to follow me on social media feel free to do so.

I don't wish to be on anyone's hate list and if I am well, those are your issues not mine. I have always said "Social Media will either make you or break you."  It's your choice. I have to do what is best for me and closing my business page was the answer. On my profile I control who can post, add me to groups, tag me etc. I do this for my own safety. I'm certain people on social media will change the story of why I made these changes and there isn't anything I can do to control what comes out of other peoples mouth.

So, having said all this I take pride & joy in taking a few steps to enjoy more happiness, stay grounded and distance myself from others drama. I prefer to be happy standing alone than with others who may be holding a knife to your back.

I have no time for that... As always, till tomorrow..... )0(

Sunday, March 19, 2017


Ever wonder why some people are just so bitter?  No matter what you do or say to them; nothing makes them happy. Well, I've come across several people in my lifetime like this. I always gave them the benefit of the doubt. I thought maybe they were going through something that I didn't understand. I finally realized and it took me years to do so; that these certain individuals just prefer to live this way.  They seem to enjoy to wallow in their own misery.

No matter what accomplishments I have made or done. There is or never will be any acknowledgment or praise from them. Yet something worse; criticism. Seriously, how can you put someone down for doing something they love to do? Why would you? People as such are clearly labeled heartless. Do you ever think they feel any type of love, admiration or joy; ever?

No one knows what another person is going through or has gone through in life. Whatever it was or is should not make you bitter towards the world and those
who love you. I guess it's easier said than done. I personally have held onto a tremendous amount of hate to certain individuals. Over the course of time, learning to let go of the anger & pain makes everything so much easier.

WHY? WHY? won't these particular people do the same? Is it easier to live with hate than love?  I've accepted the reality of how blinded I have been on being generous to those who don't ever appreciate anything. There is already so much hate and ignorance in the world. I will never understand why people hold onto such negativity? Do they not ever get tired of being bitter? Why would anyone prefer to be alone and miserable instead of enjoying life? Oh well, whatever I will have no part of their lives any longer.

You can only do so much for people. In the end it always has to be their choice to help themselves. I prefer to be happy inside and out. I wish this for them always.

Till tomorrow..... )0(